Fuzzybear, I think almost everyone here adores you. What I know of you here makes me adore you. When I didn't know you as well, I didn't fully appreciate you as much as I do now.

You know, no one is loved by everyone. I can certainly say that plenty of people not only didn't love me or appreciate me, but some even showed hatred towards me. Indifference is also common for everyone to experience, and often painful.

Being loved by one is better than being "sort of liked" by the whole world, in my view. I'm certain that Papa Bear loves you dearly. It doesn't matter what Papa Bear's family thinks. It's what Papa Bear thinks. And even if you were the one and only person that loved you, that, to me, is enough. I don't mean self-love in a narcissistic way, but in a core way. You are a very good person. I have even seen you recognize that in yourself, which I was happy to read. It's true that you are good.

I am so sorry if your parents (and/or others close to you) have not shown you sufficient love, or even any. That is not how parents and family members should be! It seems that they may have been ill, in some way not to. That can be pitied. We shouldn't have to earn love from our parents. We should be loved automatically and unconditionally. That is how God is supposed to love, in my view. Even those born ill in mind and spirit, or grossly misled to hate or hurt others. That's my view.

I think of us all here at PC as kin, of sorts. We support, encourage, cheer each other on. There is always someone (or many ones) that understand and commiserate. The joy of a place like PC is that we get to know each other in ways, albeit only via writing, that so many don't even face-to-face.

I did not have nearly as much appreciation and love for others (and myself) until later in my life's journey. It's interesting, but sad, that sometimes it takes struggle to find that out fully. I try not to resent the struggle, but rather appreciate it for bringing me to where I am now. Those that did not love me can stay in the past. I do not have to let them into my present or my future. The door can be shut on them, unless they knock and ask for forgiveness. Struggling and suffering for what will never be is a practice in folly. Instead, we have to recognize and seek the value in what is, can and should be.