My Support Forums - View Single Post - Significant other's sister and niece are racist

sarahsweets · Oct 11, 2020, 03:17 AM

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Originally Posted by zatakar

1. Unfollow your niece, and take no further interest in what she posts on Facebook.

Did you notice that I said I did "unfollow" her?

It sounds a little like you're jumping down the above posters's throat. I think they were just trying to answer your post. I also misunderstood and thought you were still able to read things this person was posting. If you cant see what they are posting then I don't understand why you need to address it with the family or her unless there's holidays or get togethers apyou're supposed to be at

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2. Find constructive ways to express your own ideals and concerns. Volunteer to help a political campaign or some other organization that promotes the principles you believe in.

Thank you, I have. Why assume that I have not?

I don't think anyone is saying you do not have any hobbies or things to do. It's just something that you can suggest to help people get over things. I'm not sure why you think that suggestion was somehow assuming you weren't doing something.

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. Your boyfriend is absolutely correct in refusing to get involved in this feud.

Actually, he did. Imo, he should have told his sister to tell his niece to deal with me directly if she has a problem with me, and NOT get her mother to tell her uncle to control me. Seems to me that would have been healthier. Over protectiveness (by the mother) is a sign of toxicity.

I thought in your original post you said he wasn't getting involved. Since you posted do you mean that is when he got involved and talked family members? I'm not trying to be difficult I'm just trying to understand. I thought you said he was sort of hands off about the whole thing. But now you are saying he did get involved. I don't know why you would want him to tell any of them to deal with you directly. There is nothing to deal with. If they feel it's appropriate to post racist things like that what you say to them isn't going to change their mind. Sadly racism is acceptable now. I guess it is the political climate or something I really don't know but even people I didn't think were racist have come out of the woodwork. In a way I'm glad. I don't want those people in my life. I don't believe what they do. I don't think it's right at all. I have no interest in what they are doing even if they are talking about me.
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So I have a request: I appreciate feedback, that is why I posted this. Please also read before judging . Thank you.

Why do you think anybody is judging? You asked for feedback and someone gave you Good feedback and exactly what you were asking for feedback on.

You can't ask for opinions or feedback and then when you don't like what somebody says say they are judging with that they are wrong or they don't understand you.