I was told by a therapist that I have traits of Avpd. If this is so, it's probably why I delete so many of my posts (deep down I feel ''unacceptable'' in some unknown way and second guess, third guess etc some of the things I write. I do think that everyone is making judgments the whole time, it's wired into us as humans (as with all animals). If someone makes a ''wrong'' judgment about me, I usually know that it's wrong and inaccurate. I can't say it never hurts though I try not to make negative assumptions about people since it doesn't help either me or the other person. I probably do sometimes make wrong assumptions though. But as with my posts (deleting them) I do not make a ''final judgment'' about someone without a LOT of evidence. I would not label someone with a mean label and say ''I only label you when its justified''... that would, IMHO, make me an arrogant A hole. (not about anyone on pc) I think that honesty without compassion is cruelty. Also there is usually not only One Truth. A ''family'' member has a characteristic of being terminally blaming of others, I could with some accuracy say this person ''NEVER'' acknowledges their own, appalling, behaviour but ''constantly'' points the finger at and blames some others. If I were to ''diagnose'' them I would say sociopathy and NPD. They have no desire to change, at all. I do not have contact with this individual. I did not say this to that individual. I did not tell them who they are (they ''constantly'' told me about my ''flaws'' - real and imagined...) I am up late and this post is not ''well written''... I do not have time to edit it. I need to nap. If anyone has any (supportive) input please feel free to reply

Maybe I should put all this **** in a journal and SHRED it.

GIGO

GARBAGE in

GARBAGE out