Here was my rational reasoning BTW, along these lines (this is my latest attempt but the previous talk was similar too):



"I don't feel this is you being taken advantage of because I've been with you for very long and I don't want you to earn money off me either
I would not have asked for this type of support if I wasn't struggling so bad with these health related issues
To me it's reasonable enough, you giving me a small part of what you already own (money-wise) to support me, so I have the basic income for a sense of security without having to ask you for more, while still doing part time work with less pressure on me, I'd be able to be with you without being stressed (incl travelling to you) and we don't have to argue afterwards about money either, I could take you out to places too sometimes
I don't feel that that'd be taking advantage of you
If you want to divide up the [~25000 USD] for all the years we have been together it's not a big amount per year even
The only one alternative I could think of is that if I get fully healthy if ever, then I can pay you back the original amount WITHOUT ANY interest rate and that it would be a [different currency, my country's currency] based loan too and the time limit for paying you back is not specified ie can be 10 years, 20 years even
There is absolutely no other alternative I can do but even that not really well as I cannot guarantee I can do it
And you do know you never had to pay rent when you lived with me in my condo
So I wasn't trying to earn money off you, please I don't want you to do that either
Is all this not obviously reasonable to you?
And I really would never have asked if I was doing fine or if I had any perspective of when I would be doing fine again if ever
Please keep that in mind as the most important thing here"

(Yes he accused me of taking advantage of him & trying to unfairly commit fraud etc etc)


PS: When he worked in the US he temporarily shared a house with a female friend who was in the process of divorcing her husband, long story, it's why they temporarily shared the house. And he ended up paying for her part of the rent. She never had to do long arguments to get him to do that. As far as I'm aware he never forced her to pay him back though he was upset that she still wasn't bothering to pay him back. That was a sum of 6000 USD over a few months when he was still in the US.

The woman was extremely overweight so it wasn't sexual attractiveness that got him to give her money like that. (No he doesn't like severely overweight women.) They are no longer even really friends.


So yeah .... I don't know what all this is.