I let L read a letter about my entire "intimate" history today. She has always told me that no topic is taboo in therapy. The other week, I wrote an email where I unintentionally dipped my toe in the water. I forget why, what prompted it, but I told L how frequent H and I are intimate. Oh! It was because we were talking about safe touch and how I don't really get that at home; that she is basically the only person I get safe touch from. She handled it well. Actually, she didn't bring it up. So I asked her if what I wrote was okay. She was gentle and just used the word "frequency" (and reiterated that no topic is taboo). All of the sudden I had an urge to jump in the deep end. That's what lead to her reading my letter in-person with me today.

She encouraged me to acknowledge and respect my gut instincts. If I felt ready, then she was ready. We did a lot of talking last week to prepare for today.

So my advice is trust your instincts. If you feel ready and have an urge to tell her things, you might want to try bringing up a small topic about relationships. "Test the waters". I will say this: if you write her, you may not want to do it through email. If you do it through email, it goes into your file. If you hand her a letter, you can take back the letter and shred it.