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What he does if you leave him because you're taking care of yourself is NOT your fault. What it sounds like is emotional manipulation on his part... which is very sad and hard to deal with.

Best advice is... does he have a counsellor/therapist to talk to? Someone with professional training to help? You cant do this all yourself, and it isnt fair to you either...

If you want to help, there are a few books (under Ratings above ^) that might help you better understand this addiction. Otherwise, try to listen if he wants to talk, but don't try to stop him from hurting himself (even if that bothers you) ... SIng is a form of control, and if you try to stop it instead of him choosing to stop it... it could potentially make things worse.

My opinion anyways.