You have been through a lot! Car crashes stink. From what you wrote it seems you feel that your mom is pushy. In my mind, it's more controlling. If she is the one buying the SUV then fine she does have a say. But if you are the one paying for it then it's YOUR decision.

Letting people control you is and will hurt you, not them. A brain injury adds another layer of questions. Did you feel your mom/family can controlled you before the car accidents? It's an ugly fact, and it's hard to handle for some people, but if you let them take control or give too much input then it will create more emotions and pain for you.

Please be kind to yourself. Life is never easy. I have been through a car accident too, and you can grow from those painful times.

You can and will get through this hard time. Reaching out to us here helps get the emotions out. Strength doesn't just happen, it takes consistent, daily effort and is totally worth every second!!