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Originally Posted by divine1966
I do understand that it would be reasonable and nice if he helped you financially.
But sometimes there is a difference between what we expect from a relationship and what relationship really is. In those cases relationship just isn’t right for us. In my opinion this relationship is not right because you expect something from a person who isn’t willing to give it. He just isn’t that person for you. The reality is he isn’t willing to help you. I understand what you are saying about feeling that he has to help you. .
As about not supporting other people. I am just being realistic. Based on my experience people usually aren’t interested in doing so. Giving someone a bit of money or buying them food and necessities is one thing, giving 25k is something very different. Even if people are very wealthy.
I am not saying it wouldn’t be nice if he gave that money. But what we want and what really happens doesn’t always match. When it doesn’t match, we have to move on because it’s just too stressful to hope for things that aren’t going to happen. You can’t get water out of a stone, so to speak
No clue why he gave that woman money. How does he explain it?
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OK I see your pov a bit better now. I understand you are saying that people have a certain essence to them and that relationships end up at some specific sortof power balance ...
I don't know though what you thought overall as to what I was looking for here. Did you feel I was just complaining, or wanting to keep hope without taking concrete action, or?
Also the thing is I don't know where you live (in the USA?) but where I live, wealthy people do easily support their SOs (even if not married). I've known Americans too who do this.
Also, afaik the average yearly US salary is about half of this 25K so it's not like some terribly big amount compared to the 3M. Granted, I never had 3 millions either so it's definitely hard to imagine.
He doesn't say anything about why he gave that money to the woman .... He had weird excuses really, my suspicion is that the woman knew how to emotionally affect him for this. I'm not really good at that ...
Anyway I'm curious what you thought I was looking for with my original post. Thanks