Hi I have an issue I started dating a girl I fell in love with 5 years ago I got out of a serious relationship with another girl of 4 years but I realized that I wanted the other girl more I waited till I was ready to be with her and it was going good for the first little bit but then I started trying to change her and wasn’t giving her the support she needed like not being a shoulder for her to cry on all I want to do is be the man she deserves but I feel I’m to self absorbed and scared of being hurt again can anyone give me help on what I should do