Are you two planning to marry or live together? Well honestly situation with my husband and me is very different. It’s literally OUR money. Our savings and our bank account. If you two aren’t married and don’t share household and don’t have mutual bills, I think it’s a bit different. I did have serious boyfriend at some point but i did not consider my money to be his. I don’t think he had rights to claim my money was his. It wasn’t his.

Yes people often support disabled family members but they do it if they want to. Some people do and some dont. Your boyfriend doesn’t want to. We can talk about it how we’d like things to be but that’s not how things are in your situation. Yes some men support women financially. Not your boyfriend. So you can either look for a man who will support or hope he’ll change his mind.

You said he might be willing to help. Then you have a chance. He might be willing to help you with money. It won’t hurt to ask