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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
(((((guy111)))), when we love another person and that other person hurts us badly, it's very hard to trust in loving again. As a result a person can get caught in between wanting to love someone and yet at the same time wonder if it's actually "safe" to do so. Being hurt by someone we thought we could love can leave us feeling insecure in ourselves on a very deep level. That's part of the challenge when it comes to talking about it or even writing it down.
We have and experience emotions for a reason, and it can most definitely leave us with a lasting fear. The ugly truth is that sometimes another person isn't really capable of appreciating and respecting another person's love. There are times another person misses things that are deeply important to us, sometimes they are simply not things that are as important to the other person. That can be hard on anyone, especially when they are passionate about something.
It's unfortunate that when ptsd develops, it can contribute to a person's challenge anytime something reminds them of that hurt. Truth is, there are life experiences that can hurt deeply and given that we are designed to record these hurts, we can become extra sensitive even when it's not wanted.
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Ya, I understand what you mean in relation to my marriage. Alot of what you are saying relates to my childhood as well. I am doing some work on healing from being a child and not feeling safe reaching out for help. Alot of my ptsd stems from experiencing trauma and not being able to stop it, control it, or speak out about it. My therapist suspects I was told to keep the things that happened a secret. This would have had a tremendous impact on me. Maybe distorting reality for me because if I have to hide the truth then I can't process why I feel the way I do. So as an adult I struggle to connect pain with its source?