I think this is probably an angry part of me.. When I experience someone as being very controlling and mean.. I tend to do the opposite of what they are ''wanting''... Is this ''unhealthy'' .. I dunno. I think it would be worse if I gave in to people's manipulation, whether conscious or unconscious. I have noticed some snakes on another forum have been crawling out from under rocks I cannot NOT be aware of other's ... stuff. I would much rather not notice. This was an issue in therapy too. I noticed when the T was being judgmental... tone of voice etc. Maybe some wouldn't notice or care? I think it really DOES matter that a T is NOT judgmental. This also triggers mood episodes for me. Maybe I'm improving at identifying this and so lessening my internal reactions.