I know this probably has a better place to post, but I am having a hard time with N1. She got miffed with me yesterday because I suggested that rather than take the 2 weeks off that her job gave her when they thought she was going IP, she go back to work. This is just incase she really has to go IP sometime soon and they'd be more likely to give her the 2 weeks off then, rather than think "Another 2 weeks?!" But when I suggested this, N1 just got miffed and said I didn't know what was going on with her and that she needs the 2 weeks off. Unfortunately, she isn't seeing a pdoc for a month! So there's this hole there. Their place is a mess and I just feel like going over there and helping clean it up. But they likely wouldn't allow me to do this because ... well, because. I am keeping my apartment spotless. I just made my (broken) bed and cleaned up the couch from the blankets and pillows I slept with last night. I realize that they both are / were working and its hard to keep up with housework, but I just think that the clutter is contributing to N1's emotional non-wellbeing. It's hard to sit here and not be able to help. Yet, at the same time, C (N1's sig. other) is coming over to my place fairly regularly and just unloading everything on me and that just makes me worry for N1. She tells me things I probably would rather not know, but the big picture comes out as I'm very concerned for my child. She smokes marijuana a lot which is new I think and you're not allowed to smoke on property here- nevermind inside your apartment. I'd hate to see them get kicked out! Not that I haven't seen lots of other people smoking on their balconies here. I'm not against smoking but I worry that it could lead to worse things.