I left my now ex 13 years ago after 33 years in a bad marriage. I bought a little farm 2100 miles across the country. I have not dated or had any interest in dating. Seriously, living alone for me has been the happiest time of my life. I am happy & satisfied with my life.....no book in the world can give you that feeling or understanding of how to feel it. If you stop making your life about being someone in relation to another person & start appreciating your life for who you are & what you do & start seeing the good around you, that is a good place to start....but it is something you have to feel inside of you, not something you can learn from a book