(((((whiteNight)))))

I'm sorry that your parents are putting you in the middle of this. First and foremost I must say that you are not the only thing holding them together. And don't think that when it is time to be on your own that you should stay to keep them together.

One thing you can do to lighten your load is to tell each of them that you are not gonna listen to them speak badly about the other. That, in my experience, is like making a child decide which parent they favor. Of course in the parent's position this doesn't come to mind, but it does happen.

My mom would often complain to me about my father. I listened to years and years of it. Although my parents were divorced, I was still the middle man so to speak for all their communication. My mom refused to speak to my dad personally without screaming at him so I became the person to relay messages to my dad. My dad never said a bad word about my mom, though. Not to me. So I tended to favor my dad over my mom because of her behavior.

I hope this helps some.