I wish I could make our divorce easier on my husband, too. I don't want to hurt him and I want him to be happy but I just can't stay with him anymore. I feel guilty about leaving him even though I'm so miserable being married and I just want to get out of our relationship and be alone.

I feel guilty and worried about my soon-to-be ex too. I don't know what the answer is for that, but I feel some of the same things you do about needing to divorce and feeling bad about it at the same time.