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Originally Posted by Diaz2020
I am right there with you.. I too can relate and I too am taking therapy as well . It has not been easy because he triggers those moments and I automatically assume he’s cheating. Which I know he is not. Which takes time and yet he has to be tho one willing to show you and gain your trust again. Also communicating is a big part too. To gain trust.
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Diaz2020, thank you for your post. I am very sorry to hear you go through something similar.
It's SO hard isn't it? I already had trust issues from past relationships, then my husband broke my trust on three occasions, and I assume that means he will also betray me and cheat on me because others have.
I know my husband is NOT cheating right now, but because he's lied before, I think what else will he lie to me about??
And he INSISTS he would never EVER cheat on me - but I've heard that one before from a pathologically lying ex who then cheated on me!
This makes it nearly impossible for me to trust my husband.
I gave that ex the benefit of the doubt over incidents that had occurred that should have been red flags, and I worry that if I also give my husband the benefit of the doubt despite these three instances, that I will then get seriously hurt down the road and resentful and kicking myself for overlooking red flags, IF they ARE red flags and indicators of trouble ahead.
My individual therapy IS helping ME at least a bit on this issue, but we've GOT to get into couples therapy.
I've got to tackle this issue of trust with him in therapy or else we will never make it and it will always be an issue for me/us. Or, perhaps trust is now forever broken and it can never be mended - ever.
I hope you can resolve your issue too.... it's not an easy one to tackle.
