I have been separated from my Borderline PD wife for a few years now. Historically, I tend to sabotage relationships and then agonize when I get dumped. A repeating behavior. Predicable. Ssooo after being dumped by my wife (after my usual behavior of basically being a jerk) I have had a very hard time "movng on." In the past, the woman has always been a bit more stable and when she did the breakup, she maintained clear and strong boundaries. But we have two kids together and I cannot go "No Contact" because of that. It's tough. In the past, I would go through a few months of major distress after a breakup and kind of carry on. Not this time. This is a different animal. My therapist smartly says that since the woman is not providing a strong wall, I have to provide it for myself. New stuff.