Aww, thanks for the hug! I needed that!

Do you think it's right to feel guilty about wanting out? I was raised Catholic so guilt is kind of a reflex for me. I feel guilty that I feel bad about the way he treats me. I'm not sure that's right. Like he would tell me he wanted me to lose weight and he would criticize what I ate (like saying "Are you going to eat all that?" when I was sitting down to eat an egg-white omelet). I weigh the same as I weighed when we got married 14 years ago, about 135 and I'm 5'5". So I don't even really think I'm fat. But when we went to couples' counseling our therapist was telling me I should stop him saying things like that and just ignore it and he's just saying those kinds of things because he's anxious. So I kind of feel like it's wrong to feel bad. But then I feel bad about my body and what I eat, and then I feel bad because I'm not handling my marriage right or something. So overall I just want to get away and live by myself where I could eat whatever I feel like and not have to feel bad anymore. I was pretty happy being single and I thought I would be even happier being married, but I'm really unhappy these days. My husband doesn't want to get divorced, but I feel so small and crushed in our relationship and I feel this burst of hope when I think about moving out and getting away.

+1 for OingoBoingo! I always feel better after listening to Try to Believe! Or even Why'd We Come:

Everyone says we've come such a long, long way
We're civilized, isn't that nice?
We've gotten so smart
We know how to blow the whole world apart
But when it comes to the simple things
(like living together) . . . ha!