Long story as short as possible...

After 4 long years of part-time then full-time college coursework, I am graduating with an AA in 3 1/2 weeks. I am transferring as a junior to a 4 year university in the fall. This is huge for me...a major accomplishment that would not have been possible without my T's support and encouragement. Soo...my parents are flying from New York to be at my graduation...this is not a happy thing. I did not ask them to come, however, I also did not ask/tell them not to come. My T is not coming. Specifically because my parents ARE. She said she would like to be there but has to set that boundary for herself (not being in any proximity to my parents). I understand this...I am in therapy because of childhood trauma and my parents were the primary abusers. I would never expect my T to be around them unless it was a planned confrontation in her office, or something along those lines. However...understanding aside, the disappointment is huge. I go from being angry that my parents are coming to celebrate with me (THATS a hugely weird feeling) to being extremely sad that T is not. More often the sad, but that anger shows up occasionally.

I'm not really sure what I am looking for here...just acknowledgment/reassurance that it's ok and normal to have both these feelings? I am definitely not looking for any slams on my T...which I got at another forum. She's not doing anything out of line here, and I get that...it just hurts a lot and I need to work through that.