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eskielover · Oct 19, 2020 at 12:38 AM

I am practicing my P/A behavior.....getting lots of practice lately

I have told this couple living in the barn apartment to ALWAYS close the gate because if my horse gets out of the turnout area I don't want her getting off the farm & LOCK it when they leave & at night. I go check on my horse up there sometimes around 1am just to make sure all is well. I keep finding the gate unlocked after locking it earlier. So after numerous nice requests I have started to passive aggressively LOCK the gate every time I go out of it during the day so if they want out they have to continually unlock it. Lots more has gone on than just this but this is a high priority issue in my life & the safety of my horse. Sometimes finding the PERFECT P/A act can be an interesting challenge

After nicely asking people to do the right thing & they keep not doing it....I tend to take the approach....."don't get mad, get even" & make their life more difficult too. Definitely P/A behavior but at times it feels good

( I would just move my horse back to my farm BUT she is thriving up there & has a nice barn to go into in bad weather & cold winter days....want to avoid moving her if possible)