What you are 'missing' is that his comment is very sexist and that he is behaving like a whiny brat.

Does he want a wife or does he need a mother? If the latter, he really ought to get his issues sorted like an adult. He seems very immature - expecting all his needs (e.g. cooking, cleaning, mothering him) to be met by you.

If you are working and he is at home, the least he could do is pull his weight and take care of the housekeeping etc. There is nothing wrong with that. But again, he seems to want you to do everything and take care of him.