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Originally Posted by Soupe du jour
I agree with sarahsweets about love, or if just a friend at least liking and respect.
It's good for the partner to understand the disorder so as to support adequately and encourage. Tolerance and imperturbability help. Devotion.
However, a person with bipolar disorder is a person and not just an illness. A partner should have the same core expectations of a partner with bipolar disorder as they would someone without the disorder. Core expectations vary. For example, if money-making or baby making was a core expectation of my husband, there would have been a problem. For some people they are mandatory.
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I agree about love, or if a friend, liking and respect.
Papa bear has never perceived me as an illness, or as an illness being the biggest/most significant ''part'' of me.
About core expectations varying. If money making was a core expectation of my husband, there could have been a problem.
Baby making was something Papa bear did not want. I was unsure when we were first married (also I did not know how much he did not want cubs.. in the wedding ceremony we ''promised to accept children lovingly from God'' I was unsure about these words and not completely comfortable with them. He persuaded me to go along with them, we disagreed on what the words meant. tmi probably and not on topic. That issue came up again the other day (again we did not agree on the meaning of the words, or our interpretation of them)
Tolerance and devotion are essential in a partner, imo.