Maybe when you call therapists don’t tell them you were abused. Tell them you have a number of issues. They are probably don’t want to get involved in case you are in danger. Plus abuse can’t be fixed. It’s not recommended for couple in abusive marriage to go to therapy together.

Communication difficulty or having difficulty find common ground on some topics could be improved. Abusive marriage is abusive marriage and it won’t stop being that. They don’t want to waste yours and their time doing therapy with people in abusive marriages. In this case individual therapy is recommended

So I am not saying you should lie but I doubt any therapist would do couple therapy if there’s abuse