I wouldn't read too much into the Facebook follow. When I used Facebook I didn't realize anyone could just follow if this wasn't set to private, and there are some people who just follow lots and lots of people, as someone else said it is a numbers game for some people. I can't remember if you've said...are you getting therapy for yourself?

It is a shame that the couples therapist wouldn't take you on, but also understandable, as if there is an abusive dynamic they could be made a player in that dynamic...I'm not sure of a better way to put that.

Good luck with the job search!

Do you get support from anyone outside of your marriage? It does seem that you have an awful lot riding on the success of your marriage, and it's unfortunate, but true that you can't ensure the success of your marriage...it really wouldn't be your fault if you had to leave.