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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Again, I cant speak for @divine1966 but as I understood it, you were asking for opinions and she gave hers. I do not think she was trying to explain anything to you like you were a two year old. She was being direct. You didnt say what you were looking for when you posted this(and you dont have to), sometimes we have to ask for what we need. |
oh I agree, I just think I was clear on what I wanted. "Thoughts? On this whole situation. What do you think of him and what would your suggestion be?"
I don't have a problem with directness, I do have a problem with it if it feels like they are ignoring my actual issue at the same time. Like "oh okay he did a lot of **** so you just need to accept that and move on as if nothing happened", like it's actually realistic advice....no it's not. It trivialises the issue and its effect.
Like I did explicitly ask her to only respond again if she puts herself in my shoes, "But please only respond to me if you can put yourself in my shoes and do honestly ask yourself if you would not be upset or angry or depressed or how you would feel in this situation yourself""
(With your response above I did feel you did put yourself in my shoes)