Hi everyone.


Not been here for a year! I found this forum so helpful when I was struggling with my previous therapist and ended up ending therapy with her after a major rupture which landed me in hospital.


I've had a new therapist for 8 months. We meet once a week are progressing really well with work. It feels like the first time I've trusted someone enough to explore the most painful issues right at the core of my problems. And it's the first time when I have a therapist who is capable to explore these with me without the whole process sending me suicidal. However, as always I've been using very dysfunctional coping mechanisms to cope with distress. This is nothing new but rather a reason I've gotten into therapy.


So in the past year I've somehow moved from self harm and eating disorder to having loads of casual sex with people I'm not even attracted to. I'm married with kids so this is obviously a totally horrendous thing to do. Please don't judge me. So last night me and my husband had a huge argument about every problem in our marriage and whether we should divorce or not. I've been trying to convince him we should for ages but he adores me and doesn't want to. In the end I told him I've been sleeping around and it felt like a bomb going off. He's devasted and hurt but putting it down to my poor mental health. He says he forgives everything if we just work hard to make our marriage work. He's suggested I'd asked to increase my therapy to twice a week as I've been so depressed for months and doing all this stupid stuff on top. I feel totally detached. Like I'm living in someone else's nightmare that's not real nor even happening to me.


The question is though.. Do you think I should ask my therapist if I could see him twice a week. Our current work is mainly focusing on the transference and my crush and obsession on him. So I'd obviously be more than happy to see him twice a week. But I can't see whether that's a good idea or a bad idea and whether it would make any difference to the situation. I don't want to be contacting him between sessions because I'm in crisis. And I don't want him to think I'm asking for a second session week just because I'm wanting to be with him more. And I don't think I could cope if he said no especially if he felt it came from just my need to be with him.


Any thoughts on this?