Hello, I'm a new member here. I am a bit apprehensive about sharing what is going on in my life, in part because I feel both guilty and burdensome doing so, and also because I'm a mental health professional and am dysfunctionally used to not disclosing any personal information about myself (avoidance tactic).

I have been separated for a long time and my husband and I decided on divorcing amicably about one month ago. We are waiting another month to file for numerous reasons, but at this point it is definite. For the most part, we have been able to work it out peacefully as friends.

Despite the amicable conditions, I've been experiencing moderate depression in addition to health issues with long-haul covid-19. I am also working remotely helping people through their own mental health issues on most days. I take care of my kids 99% of the time (their dad sees them a few times a week for about 30 minutes each time). I love what I do, no regrets, but I'm physically so very tired, getting by just barely with the emptiness and hopelessness. I know divorce can be liberating and full of hope for so many; for me it's been a reminder of all the ways I feel like I've failed, despite my best efforts to make this work.

I do know how to be aware of and treat most of my symptoms, I know the grief and heavy loss of a long, long marriage gets better in time, and I know that I will be okay in the long run. At the same time, social support is scarce right now and yet so essential to those of us dealing with significant loss and change.

I've rambled enough! Thank you for reading. I would love to hear how those of you who have been through a similar situation have worked through the pain of it, and what resources you have found to be most helpful to you.

Thanks!