I don’t see why anyone would judge you. A man did drugs on his wedding day, illegal drugs he bought with his bride’s money without her permission isn’t something most people would defend. No one would judge you.

Him opening your mail without permission is not cool. I open my husbands mail because he has aversion to opening mail but it is something we discussed and that’s the only way his mail gets open on time. Having said that, I’d expect him to already know how much money you have. Typically it’s not a secret in marriage. It shouldn’t ever be a secret. It’s not something spouses should hide if they are in a legal unionI think it’s concerning that there is lack of transparency in this marriage on both sides. It sends a red flag that you both aren’t open with each other. But yeah why is he just opening it without a discussion, weird

Oh he can’t get much from you, you haven’t been married long enough but he could (If he asks) get half of what was contributed to retirement account from the day you married until now.