It doesn’t strike me as a content relationship when both parties are comfortable to address whatever needs to be addressed without fears and without it going into a vicious fight. I don’t understand being afraid to ask a spouse why he opened my mail. I do understand wanting to keep peace but this isn’t a battle field or a power struggle set up. It should be easy enough. I don’t think it’s healthy to worry and be suspicious about what your spouse does and why and not be able to directly address it. It’s too stressful

It sounds like he has charisma and is being liked by others. It’s good. But it’s nothing to do with your marriage. Some people are great friends and employees and are great on a dance floor and a bar but not great husbands. He might be very endearing but you had a long list of pretty consistent complaints and grievances about your husband and your marriage in general, which isn’t typical for a new or in fact any marriage. And these aren’t minor complaints that you husband forgets to wash dishes. These are serious complaints. If things were good and satisfying, you’d not have these complaints. You’d be content