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Old Oct 22, 2020, 12:25 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
It doesn’t strike me as a content relationship when both parties are comfortable to address whatever needs to be addressed without fears and without it going into a vicious fight. I don’t understand being afraid to ask a spouse why he opened my mail. I do understand wanting to keep peace but this isn’t a battle field or a power struggle set up. It should be easy enough. I don’t think it’s healthy to worry and be suspicious about what your spouse does and why and not be able to directly address it. It’s too stressful
I don't want to bring up an issue that occurred three weeks ago. I would, but given the recent atmosphere, I'd rather not and I'd prefer to just keep the peace. He is fed up with me questioning him all the time, and honestly, I don't blame him. Had I thought of asking him three weeks ago when it happened, I would have asked him without fear. Why bring it up now? It will only cause a problem.
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