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Originally Posted by divine1966
Well then it sounds like you have a great marriage and you are both very happy. It just doesn’t match what you post about being frequently upset and unsatisfied in your marriage. What causes frequent fights that now escalate to police being called then if things are good. Something just isn’t right. What is it?
Some of the things you posted are cute but that’s pretty much what everyone does in a relationship. Cuddling and baby talk and giving you a kiss is a normal thing that everyone does in a relationship.
What makes him a good partner for life? How reliable, consistent and trustworthy is he?
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You tend to think in black and white terms, Divine. I do not. I have been both happy and unhappy in this marriage. It is not a black and white issue in my mind. There's lots of room for grays, but you don't think in those terms, so perhaps i's harder for you to understand.
I've never said I'm completely happy and satisfied -- there have been some serious issues to contend with.
But I am in NO position to leave him right now. We are going to see a couples therapist to see if we can work things out... or not.
I don't know if I can fully trust him again right now at this juncture. I've stated several times now that everything is uncertain for me.
I also come from the perspective that since he has been willing to make positive changes, that maybe I should give him a chance.
I agree that calling the police is not a good sign. That was MY doing. I did that because i was wasted. I am totally responsible for what went down that night. I cracked. So be it. Pick up and move on.
And the things that make OUR relationship special to ME? I've never experienced so much cuddling in my entire life, nor baby talk. This to me is a rarity. I don't think that happens in every relationship, as you claim. You make it seem like that isn't a special thing.