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Originally Posted by daladico
Hey Soupe-
Man I really struggle with this too.
It’s seriously a huge stressor to me.
Have you found anything that helps??
For years I was nice about it, and that didn’t work. Over the past year I’ve had serious talks about it with hubby. And that seemed to semi- get the point across, but no sustained change.
I do NOT want to be the nagging wife, but I can’t keep doing 80% of the work forever. Most of the time I deeply struggle with my mental health, and this just makes things worse.
I’ve realized I need to do a better job of advocating for my needs, so I’ve been doing this more frequently.
Anyone have tips to get a lazy hubby help out around the house more?? When they seriously don’t think there’s a problem 🤦 He watches tv for hours and hours every day and barely helps with anything. (this hubby grew up with an amazing mom who did EVERYTHING for him).
I’m not here just to complain- I really want actual advice. Thanks guys.
thanks for posting this Soupe... I hope your hubby steps it up & helps out more 💛
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I think there's usually one in a couple that seems to do a disproportionate amount of work.
Before the house sale and move preparations, the work was much more fairly distributed. In fact, my husband surely did a bit more than I did when I was less able. But now, under great pressure and stress, he's almost frozen, in a sense. I have always been the hustling type and seem to have a much better sense of priorities and action planning. This is a unique time for us, to be sure. My husband has ADD (the non hyper kind). I assume this is part of the issue. It is for him at his job, and from stories it was during his school/university years. Like your mom, my mom did more than my dad. Worked a full time job, was main parental support and emotional support for my dad, cooked, cleaned, and handled all bills. When my mom died, that was a huge shock for all. She was the backbone of the family.
It's good that you have advocated for yourself. I am looking forward to any suggestions from others, on this topic, too.