Today at my T appt, we started talking for the first time about one of the traumas that I've had to endure in my life. I'm looking for opinions because I'm having a problem with a certain aspect of it. My T said I'm thinking with the mind set of an adult and not that of the age I was at the time. I'm having a difficult time trying to put myself in the mind set of that particular age that I was. So, here is my question: First, think back, one or two generations, when things were more *innocent*, when kids didn't *grow up* as fast as they seem to today. I willingly went off with someone, my perpetrator, who was only a few years older than myself, basically another child, albeit *sick* one. Today, with my adult mind, I blame myself for doing that, why didn't I know better? My T said that I need to work on putting myself in the mind set of the age that I was and then I would realize that I didn't see anything wrong with that, she said I was too young. But somehow, my memories are telling me that I did know better then but I did it anyway. So, am I remembering from how I felt back then or am I thinking with the mind set of an adult? I can't remember, is it a memory or is it adult thinking? I have other *memories* from the same incident that don't make sense either but that's another subject altogether. Right now, I'm trying to figure out, did I know it was wrong to go off with another *kid* (the perpetrator) at the time? I'm sooooo confused. Remember, this is one or two generations ago. At what age would we know that going off willingly with someone that we don't know is wrong, even if it is another kid? PLEASE help me by throwing some numbers (ages) at me. I need to know, was this a memory or is it adult thinking.