@Fuzzybear, I'm with Daonnachd on this. You are blaming yourself far too much for other people's feelings/stress. Plus, everyone has nightmares from time to time. Even perfectly content people. Nightmares don't have to have causes.

FuzzyBear, I hope you don't mind me sharing a story from my youth. I thought of it after reading your and Daonnachd's posts. It is a true story. Here it is:

“When I was a child, my siblings passed blame on me for almost EVERYTHING. Sometimes (or occasionally often times) I was the culprit. Then one particular day, my mother came to me with an angry look and said “Did you do ‘such and such?!?!'”

To that I sighed, exasperated by the hundreds of accusations, and said “Mom…Ya know, if I did even HALF the number of things I’ve been accused of over the years, I must really be quite AMAAAAAAZING!” I think I was only 8 years old at that time.

I guess that exclamation rang true enough, and my mom began to laugh. And I began to laugh."


I think something quite similar applies in your case, except you seem to be the one often blaming yourself, versus others blaming you. Or if others also blame you for things, the exact same situation applies. Either way, FuzzyBear my friend, such extreme amounts of blame are just not warranted.