@Julielynn1990, I am so sorry to hear about the position you are now in. That is very painful to deal with and face. I'm so sorry.

I think your husband's sneakiness and infidelity says it all. He's met someone behind your back, which means he has lied to you about where he was going whenever he went to meet this woman.

And him texting her while knowing you were nearby? That also says a lot about his state of mind.

Do you know if they have slept together? Has he spent the night out recently? Even if he was only gone a few hours while pretending to be elsewhere, he could have slept with this woman already, and I'm guessing he has. I'm so sorry to be so blunt and forthcoming, but these are the things you're going to have to ask yourself and face.

I agree with Divine on this. He is now uncertain and has also cheated. Why try to force the relationship any further at this stage? He needs time to think? He is not invested anymore, I hate to say it and he's already taken steps to get out and move on..... if I were you, I would do the same and I wouldn't wait. I would file for divorce and I would just say, that's it, we're done.

And I don't want to hurt your feelings by saying what I am saying, but I am very honest and direct about things on here. I know it hurts tremendously after so many years together. But this is his doing and his choice, and he chose to sneak around, lie to you and cheat. He has shown you true colors. You deserve far better. Hugs to you.