Also, in adding to my above post, when I said that I was thinking about the individual that posed a question. In thinking about this individual I thought about this individual's overall challenge even as a parent herself. In her particular situation she was trying to find the best way to support and help her daughter even though her daughter made choices she was not really ready to handle. Then I think about her mother and how there are things she hears even when she doesn't want to hear them that she finds offensive. I think about how her mother most likely doesn't care for it either but is just trying to be present for her family on a holiday.

For some, family gatherings can be very challenging. For some family gatherings can be too toxic to bear too. So it can be a challenge when it comes to deciding what to do when it comes to spending a holiday with one's family or agreeing to participate in family gatherings.