My partner jokes in this way, too.. with a lot of people. I've had conversations with him about it and told him these "jokes" come from a dark place. Now, when I catch him joking this way, I remind him it's a "dark joke" and that it's not allowed. I'm trying not to get into the specifics.

Your husband knows your buttons. It's clear he knows he's joking on your expense for a cheap laugh. There's something within him, too.

What's his relationship like with his mom? Does he have a sister, too?