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Old Oct 25, 2020, 12:48 PM
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Originally Posted by MsLady View Post
My partner jokes in this way, too.. with a lot of people. I've had conversations with him about it and told him these "jokes" come from a dark place. Now, when I catch him joking this way, I remind him it's a "dark joke" and that it's not allowed. I'm trying not to get into the specifics.

Your husband knows your buttons. It's clear he knows he's joking on your expense for a cheap laugh. There's something within him, too.

What's his relationship like with his mom? Does he have a sister, too?
I hear you. I call my husband out on every single one of these so called jokes.

He had two brothers; one passed away in 9/11, a very tragic event that messed up his entire family, understandably. No sisters and one older male sibling left.

His father was/is abusive, explosive, racist and sexist. Yet my husband claims he was a "great" father. He has a lot of therapy ahead of him to acknowledge the fact that his father taught him to abuse women. He did admit in July that he's been mirroring his father's behavior. Yet, I still feel like he's not fully acknowledging and absorbing how his father truly is.

He does love his mother. It's his father who is the problem.
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Last edited by Have Hope; Oct 25, 2020 at 01:10 PM.