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Old Oct 25, 2020, 02:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Open Eyes View Post
First, you are not crazy at all. Second, I am not going to tell you to jump up and divorce him right away either. It's clear that you want to have time to think about this challenge and make up your OWN mind. Also, it's not a good idea to act too quickly. Instead you deserve time to investigate how to move forward through this challenge. You can talk to a lawyer so you can see what ground you stand on too legally. You should do that as soon as you can to prevent your husband from secretly pulling away money from accounts etc. There is the emotional, and that's hard, but it's also important to move forward in a smart way too and know your rights.

Somehow, in your conversation with your husband however, he needs to know that his choices are most definitely going to affect his/your children who are only in their teens and simply do not have the life skills to understand what's suddenly happening with their parents. Often, teens feel they are not even being thought about and their feelings are being ignored and maybe mom and dad don't even care about or love them. Often there are deep resentments that develop as well. Also, FEAR of what will this do to their lives? They WILL feel ABANDONED and that can affect them the rest of their lives. Your husband has to be told that. Also, your husband should know that these other women who KNOW he is married are actually SELFISH women who don't care to respect what pain they may be causing to his family, that's VERY selfish.

Also, just because you did not have your own job or career, it doesn't mean you are wrong. You chose to be a homemaker and a mother and to be there for your children. Perhaps you need to think about going back to school and making some changes in your own life. That being said, your husband will have to pay child support and probably alimoney too. He "can't" just walk away from his responsibilities.
Wow! You've really hit the nail on the head! Its just so new and raw still. I do have any lawyer in mind already. Believe me I dont trust him one bit and he knows this. I think he thinks Im not so smart either because I know WAY more than he thinks I know. Also I dont know how I had my faculties about me when this all happened but I remembered we had a fairly significant amount of cash in the house. Immediately after he left it was like a lightbulb went off in my head and I ran to look for it and it was gone!!! i had a bit of a panic attack. Called him and asked him to stop by before he went to his parents. He did and i asked where it was. He said I have it. I said give it to me. Hw asked why and I said because i dont trust him and I want it!!! He gave it to me. Probably the smartest think I have ever done. Its going into new checking account in my name next week.
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Fuzzybear, MsLady, Open Eyes, RoxanneToto
Thanks for this!
Open Eyes