You are 100% correct!!! Im trying to think about what I want out of this. I'm worried about my kids and how this will affect them. Im trying not to rush into anything because I need time to think too. He did say the old "its not you, its me" and i kinda believe it because right now he is a walking talking cliche! im hoping to have some more clarity when I start therapy. I know I have my own issues to work out.

Thanks to everyone who has responded to me ! I dont feel all alone and I feel understood! I have to see him tonight at my youngest game so Im sure I'll be on later! I really need space right now and hes finally giving it, so it seems.