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Old Oct 25, 2020, 03:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Julielynn1990 View Post
I have been thinking about my part in us growing apart. I know I have things I have to change for myself. Thats why Im going to therapy. To work on myself for myself. If it helps my marriage, great. if not, so be it. I did bring up couples therapy to him for the future. If he chooses not to go, that may be my line in the sand moment. Til then thanks everyone for listening and really talking to me about all this. I cant possibly be more grateful
What I said to you was in no way to encourage you to think his choice was your fault. His choice to cheat was wrong and selfish. If he was unhappy he should have talked to you about it.

Truth is, some people really do not know how to talk about challenges they are having. What he has been doing is he chose to cheat and is trying to excuse it by saying he has not been happy. That is an excuse on his part, his effort to reduce his guilt.
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