I have been thinking about my part in us growing apart. I know I have things I have to change for myself. Thats why Im going to therapy. To work on myself for myself. If it helps my marriage, great. if not, so be it. I did bring up couples therapy to him for the future. If he chooses not to go, that may be my line in the sand moment. Til then thanks everyone for listening and really talking to me about all this. I cant possibly be more grateful