Well he is hoping other parents don’t learn what’s going on. Actually it’s best they don’t know in terms of how that may affect your child. People do gossip and can be rather cruel.

It’s understandable that seeing your husband right now is upsetting. You are clearly overloaded with facing a major life change that he initiated. And he acted without respecting how that would affect his family. You have every right to be angry. And it’s totally understandable that you would rather not see your husband while you wrap your mind around what you are learning about what he chose to do behind your back.

He is probably afraid of what you might do. He made a choice and acted but that doesn’t mean he has really thought it all through including the consequences. Guess he needs more time to make up his mind right? How convenient well make him wait while you decide what you want to do. That includes learning your legal rights. And having time to think through what you want.