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Old Oct 26, 2020, 07:55 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
It’s good he is learning. We all make mistakes. It just seems like there’s an argument of sorts almost daily. Doesn’t it not feel like too much or too often to you? It seems excessive. Everyone has misunderstandings or arguments in relationships. It’s inevitable. But this seems excessive
It is excessive. And I'm seeing that he's reverted back to abuse tactics again.

I am calling couples counselors now, but I don't think there's hope for us anymore, and I am coming far closer to the conclusion that I must leave him.... sooner than later and after I get a job. This is a most sobering conclusion.

He did something else dishonest yesterday, and that has me concluding now that he is just not an honest person. I cannot be married to someone who is dishonest, let alone abusive. There's no point in even confronting him about it; he will excuse and will rationalize it. And it blows me away how much he defends his so-called "integrity" when I don't see much integrity in things he does.
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