OMG!!!! Moonstruck is one of my all time favorite movies!!!! How could I have not thought of that movie with all that's been going on?!

I think you are absolutely right! All this advice Im getting from everyone makes sense to me even though it could be completely opposite from each other. It all makes me look at this problem from all angles with I love. I cant believe how lucky I am to have found this and all of you. Its good to just get the words out there.

I really feel like it is a midlife crisis. When I saw him yesterday he didn't look good. Also I getting more concerned about my kids. I dont think husband understands what he has done to them. He aske me yesterday " I bet he couldn't wait to get here!" about my youngest. I said honestly "not really" and husband looked crushed. Maybe he's beginning to see this is not all about him. Talked to youngest because he has seemed off. This kid is a social butterfly. he hasn't been leaving the house. Well I got him to admit he doesn't want to , hes angry, and he's mad at his dad for being selfish.. Told him all his feeling are valid and he need to let them out. My oldest also told me the same thing later almost word for word. And they don't know about the other woman, at least i don't think they do. If that comes to light, things are going to go from bad to worse for husband. I told youngest not to hang out in the house for me. Ill be fine and get out there and be a kid. i hope he does.

Husband says he wants to take to me about kids and how they're doing. I don't think he would like what I have to tell him. But I need my space so I guess you're only gonna find out when we have to be together. He is a good father, very involved, but not perfect like we all are not perfect. He has just dug himself a hole that may be very difficult for him to get of.

Now I may have to go watch Moonstruck!