Washing frequently does make it oilier. I only wash mine once a week now, and I use Wen, or t-gel. I used to wash much less frequently so once a week is great for me. You have to use Wen according to instructions though. Take a large amount to massage into the scalp and hair, depending how long it is (I use a handful, wash the scalp and hair, rinse rinse rinse, then take a very small amount to use as a leave-in on my ends). It is amazing. I need to get my hair cut though because it's too thin.

Sorry your Mom has been dwelling on it. [emoji813]