I read through most of your post about your boyfriend's mother and all I can say is OMG this woman is a total nightmare and control freak. She is also demanding her son be her codependant and make sure she comes first no matter what. If you ever got married this woman would be a MIL nightmare. No wonder her husband left her. Not only does she not respect you but she doesn't respect her own son either.



This therapist has many youtube talks you can listen to about narcissists.

If they are unhappy they tend to blame everyone else for it. They need to create drama and they need the world to revolve around them.

You are a threat to this MIL's need to have her son be her adoring audience and flying monkey. She has taught him to be her codependant. She knows how to push his buttons and she doesn't like you because you don't let her push your buttons and have showed you have boundaries.