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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Hey @Nkst
I dont know how to say this without being blunt but I think he has to put a stop to this right away or do not get married. You personally can set all the boundaries you want but he is ultimately the one who should work very hard at enforcing them. In fact, I think he should defend you more. If the situation doesnt get resolved before you get married its a recipe for disaster(IMO)
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Hi Sarah,
Thank you for taking the time to read this and reply. I really appreciate it! I’ve been told what you just said many times, by friends, family members and therapists. It seems it’s pretty clear I am holding on to something I shouldn’t be. We just started couples counseling a few weeks ago and my fiancé is extremely hesitant to set boundaries when the therapist suggests. I’ve got myself in a mess.