Some people lack deep understanding of things but they’ve learned some psycho babble and now they shlep it on to everything and anything even it’s not even remotely relevant. They think it makes them sound intelligent and important but in reality this psycho babble has no deep meaning. And they can’t fool us with it. Let them talk. Ignore.

As situations with men, we can’t really help who we attract and who we might initially like but we sure can help who we get committed to, who we bring home and marry.

I honestly think you’d benefit from raising your standards and expectations of men. It has to be more than them being lovey dovey, it’s not enough, they have to be higher class of men. Relationship with higher standards men might still not work but at least you won’t feel screwed over.

Honestly some men you were with were way beneath you and were in no shape or form relationship or commitment material. You have to aim higher. And then have list of deal breakers and get out as soon as you see anything wrong with them, which is typically just few months. No one can pretend to be great longer than that. Having said that, we all’ve been there and done that. You aren’t alone in this. We all live and learn. You deserve the best and you are on a right track